Negotiating Transition: Stay Practical

Acts 6:2 – Then the twelve called the multitude of the disciples unto them, and said, It is not reason that we should leave the word of God, and serve tables. (KJV)

In this passage we understand that the early church was growing so quickly that the apostles could not adequately handle all of the responsibilities by themselves. So they took it upon themselves to select qualified individuals to help them with the day-to-day operations of the church. Notice how they made this decision. They said, “..it is not reason that we should leave the word of God and serve tables.” There is no indication in this passage that they made their decision based on a supernatural experience with God. In other words, it appears that they made this decision based on practical observation and common sense.

One of the most difficult things for some people to remember during a time of transition is to stay practical. It is easy at times to become so spiritually minded that we forget about the day-to-day duties that require sober thinking and common sense. Even if we are in the midst of a transition, we still have our daily routines and family responsibilities that must be considered.

If married, we must be especially considerate of the needs of our spouse and children. They may not fully understand the spiritual dynamics of the decision making process during a time of transition. So it is advisable to maintain a sense of normalcy when it comes to where you live, school issues, and relationships with friends and family. It may even require a person to find temporary employment to offset unexpected or additional expenditures. It is neither unscriptural nor unspiritual to provide for yourself or your family’s needs. As a matter of fact, the Bible seems to indicate the exact opposite (1 Timothy 5:8). During all the transitions that have taken place in my life, I have always maintained the attitude that I am willing to do whatever it takes to obey God and to provide for my family, even if that means finding employment.

It is also important to keep the lines of communication open with your spouse and your family. Openness and honesty are two necessary virtues in creating unity and cohesiveness in relationships. Many times during a transition there are opportunities for misunderstanding due to temporary inconveniences or setbacks. It is during these times that communication can play a vital role in resolving issues. Please make sure that whatever decisions are made, you and your spouse are in agreement. Negotiating transition is much easier when you both agree that you are moving in line with God’s will.

Amos 3:3 – Can two walk together, except they be agreed? (KJV)

I personally believe that how we relate to our children and our spouses during a time of transition can shape their attitudes about life and ministry, and may even potentially affect their view of what it means to serve God. I do not believe that we are to neglect our spouse or children’s needs in order to pursue our own personal ambitions apart from God’s plan. Following God’s plan may require some sacrifices, but when we know God is leading, He will not only furnish the grace and the strength, He will also supply every need and bring blessing into our lives and the lives of our family.

Not only should we consider the responsibilities we have toward our family, it is also important to make sure that we take care of ourselves both physically and mentally. It is important to take time to rest and refresh ourselves. It is much easier to hear the voice of God and to distinguish between emotion and the voice of Holy Spirit when we are rested and refreshed in mind and body.

Remember, during a time of transition; stay practical. Do not neglect the day to day needs that you or your family may have. I believe if you honor your family, God will honor you by supplying you with whatever you may have need of during a transition in life or ministry